Relationships are hard work– while some couples make it appear effortless, one will realize that being in a relationship means giving something of yourself and getting something of the other person. This requires a balancing act of give-and-take.
Here are 10 useful tips to ensure a happy and healthy relationship.
1. Get to know each other no matter how long you’ve been together.
Even if you’ve passed the 1-year mark, make it a point to get to know each other continuously. Each person is a work in progress, and you can be part of that process by getting to know the person’s past, present and hopefully be part of his or her future.
2. Learn to sacrifice and compromise.
A relationship entails some sort of sacrifice and compromise. No matter how alike you are, there will be things that you will not necessarily agree on, and you need to be willing to accept that and meet halfway if need be.
3. Spend time together.
The most effective way to keep your relationship happy and strong is to spend time together. Allocate a day a week to spend with your loved one alone and make it a point to do something together.
4. Find common interests and enjoy them together.
If you are one of those “opposites attract” types of couples, then together, try to discover a new hobby that both of you can pursue. It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it allows you to develop bonding over a common interest.
5. Surprise him or her every now and then.
Every person in a relationship loves a surprise. Occasionally plan one out for your loved and one and he or she will surely return the favor.
6. Settle problems as soon as possible.
Never leave an issue to settle passively. Always do your best to settle an argument before the day ends. If this is not possible, give yourself and your loved one some time to calm down and think about it. But always go back to it and resolve it before moving on to other things before it builds up and becomes a bitter grudge.
7. Listen, listen, listen.
Listening is one of the most important things in the relationship. Learn to listen for verbal and non-verbal messages.
8. Always want the best for the other.
Never try to limit your loved one – if the change is for the best, then encourage him or her to go for it.
9. Constantly let them know you love them.
It doesn’t have to be actual “I love you’s”, but it can come in the form of little things that make them smile.
10. Love yourself too.
Don’t forget to leave some love for yourself. After all, you cannot love someone else when you cannot love yourself.